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By Joan Tupponce

Before January, Becky Durfee, Ray Ibrahim and Jeff Green didn’t know one another, even though they all work in Virginia Commonwealth University’s College of Humanities and Sciences. Now, they share a bond — the act of saving a life through kidney donation.

In the span of seven weeks this semester — on Jan. 3 and 4 and Feb. 21 — all three donated kidneys.

For Durfee, assistant chair in the Department of Statistical Sciences and Operations Research, the journey began in February 2023 when she saw a friend’s Facebook post.

“It said that her brother would die without a kidney transplant. I filled out the questionnaire right then and there,” Durfee said.

The screening process took approximately 11 months. “They made sure I was healthy enough to donate,” she said. “I spent one entire day at VCU Health being scanned from head to toe.”

On Jan. 3 this year, Durfee had a kidney removed at VCU Health Hume-Lee Transplant Center through a minimally-invasive robotic surgery.

“They made three one-half-inch incisions that look like birthmarks. The surgery was about 2½ hours, and I stayed in the hospital for two nights,” she said.

As soon as her kidney was removed, the medical team had it flown to Atlanta, where the recipient was waiting.

“His transplant was successful. Three days after the surgery, his kidney function levels were better than they had been in 20 years,” Durfee said.

For Ibrahim, the donation was a way he could help his older brother receive a kidney, even though they don’t share blood type

“My brother needed a kidney when he was young because he had kidney disease,” said Ibrahim, a graduate student in the Department of Mathematics and Applied Mathematics. “Luckily, my mom was able to donate her kidney. But donated kidneys don’t live forever, and my brother’s kidney was failing again.”

When Ibrahim found out he was not a match, he decided to donate his kidney to someone else, so his brother could receive a kidney from another donor in return. Luckily, Ibrahim’s brother matched with a donor in April and is now “recovering well” after surgery.

On Jan. 4 at Weill Cornell Medical Center in New York City, after a year of medical testing, Ibrahim had his kidney removed. It went to a patient in Pennsylvania, and though the process is anonymous, either the donor or recipient can send a letter to the other party.

“I received a letter from my recipient and I read it. It was heartwarming,” Ibrahim said. “The recipient told me about their family and that the kidney was doing fine and they were recovering well. It was a very sweet letter. It made me feel good. I felt happy that I could help someone.”

For Green, the kidney donation on Feb. 21 had no familial or friend connection. Green, Ph.D., is a social psychologist who teaches in VCU’s Department of Psychology. His friend and fellow social psychologist Abigail Marsh wrote the book “The Fear Factor,” and its focus on altruistic donations made an impression on Green.

“That started me on my path. At this stage of my life, sometimes there can be greater gains in a loss and some advantages to making yourself vulnerable,” Green said. “I was thinking of something that would be meaningful for me.”

One of the courses he teaches is about the psychology of happiness, and he has done significant research on gratitude and forgiveness.

“In many respects, people get a greater feeling of well-being and happiness from giving to others,” Green said. “Knowing that some discomfort on my part would possibly double or triple someone else’s life expectancy was compelling and made the decision rather easy for me.”

Green had his surgery at Hume-Lee Transplant Center, and his kidney was transported to New York Presbyterian Hospital.

“It would be profoundly meaningful to meet the person who received the kidney,” said Green, who has had a speedy recovery. “I’m privileged to be a part of this greater motivation to help somebody. If other people knew the facts, I think we would see a lot more donations, and that would save a lot of lives.”

April was National Donate Life Month, and more than 89,000 patients were on the waiting list for a kidney as of mid-month, according to the Health Resources & Services Administration, an agency of the Department of Health and Human Services.

Living with one kidney doesn’t limit your life or shorten your lifespan, said Green, who finished an Olympic-distance triathlon on April 20, swimming 0.9 miles, biking 25 miles and running 6.2 miles.

“The kidney operation was irrelevant, even though it was only eight weeks before the race,” he said.

Durfee, who went on a 10-mile bike ride to celebrate the two-month anniversary of her donation, wants people to understand how easy the process was for her.

“Everybody was worried about me doing this. What if my kidney goes bad? If it does, then I go straight to the top of the recipient list because of my status as a donor,” she said. “Matching is much easier than I thought. You don’t need to be an exact match. I am type O blood, which is the universal donor.”

Durfee’s recipient is a 53-year-old Iraq War veteran. “He sacrificed years of his life for you and me, so I felt I could sacrifice a few weeks of mine for him,” she said. “Now he is completely back to normal.” She hopes others will feel motivated to donate a kidney. “If you have a friend that needs a kidney, you don’t have to pray that a family member will donate because you can. I feel amazing about what I have done,”

Durfee said, noting the connection she feels with her recipient.

“I saw the video of him ringing the bell after doing a lap around the ward in the hospital. Watching him ring that bell was so powerful. He sent me a picture of his new grandson – who he gets to watch grow up – and that was rewarding.”